Real Love

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Wisdom from Ann Voskamp over at A Holy Experience

“Let everyone do their talking about 50 shades of grey, but don’t let anyone talk you out of it: commitment is pretty much black and white. Because the truth is, real love will always make you suffer. Simply commit: Who am I willing to suffer for?”

Don’t let the part about always suffering scare you.  Think about it: you lose someone you love, and you suffer their loss. Yet you would never have traded away your time together.

And as Lissa Rankin reminds us, “and know that when you give people permission to break your heart, sometimes they will.” This comes with advisement to discerningly let down our guard, letting those to whom we commit see our beautiful imperfections.

Who am I willing to suffer for?

What an amazing way to see it.  I love the clarity, in black and white.