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We don’t have to work any harder, to be happy

We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same. Carlos castaneda (via pam grout’s The course in miracles experiment) I don’t need to gear up to act on getting happier. It doesn’t take more effort to be hopeful than to be despairing. I can see where it […]

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Choose. Then choose again.

I’ve been “getting through” lately. This unending winter, oh ffs the ice hasn’t even gone off the lakes yet and everything is still mud. Living out of boxes, in yet another move as part of an extended transition. Chronic pain that is usually quieter has been yelling at me instead. I’m getting so mentally grumpy […]

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Passions and people, not possessions

Ah, yes — spring cleaning. Clearing out what no longer serves us and making space for what does. I’m a big fan of Denise Linn’s work in this area and I really love her measurement for if a thing is clutter or not: Do I love it? Do I use it? If you can answer […]

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Reverse-engineering happiness and success

The old story of how to feel good goes like this: “If this (insert success here) happens, then I’ll be happy.” You know what that looks like — when we get the job, land the contract, get the love interest, win the lottery then we’ll be happy. Those pretty big-ticket items are fairly obvious, but […]

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Small joys, chosen

Happiness isn’t a reward, an endpoint that has been earned. Happiness is a way of being, a chosen path. Honestly, lately this is something I’ve kind of forgotten. And so, I am making a choice to bring in more happiness. Here’s a simple practice that I am adopting, to celebrate the small joys: Make three […]

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