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Miss Understood

Conflict develops when two people say, “Here’s how I need you to be.” Resolution emerges when one of those people says, “I allow you to be exactly as you are.” OneĀ of you. You don’t need both. You don’t need to agree. You don’t even need the other’s conscious awareness. Just your own.

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Miss Communication

Have you ever been in a conversation with a loved one in which you both just weren’t connecting? And the harder you tried to communicate, the worse it all went? If you’re breathing, I’ll bet the answer is yes. (Because I’m breathing, too.) Here’s what is actually happening, and here’s what you can do when […]

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Not Wrong is the new Right

I’ve learned a small change in wording that makes a huge difference in relationship. It applies in all areas of life, because it strengthens connection. It’s super helpful to consider when someone is unleashing their belief, opinion, or frustration on you. It’s beneficial when someone shares their thoughts, feelings, and emotions with you. It’s also […]

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Two Opinions, One Word, Zero Listening.

Have you ever been in a conversation where you each have a differing opinion? Of course you have, that’s a large reason for conversation! And while you know that you’re having a civil, perhaps even pleasant, discussion, you increasingly feel that you’re getting further and further apart? Despite the fact that you’re really listening to […]

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