Share and Share A Like

child opening mouth and colors, shapes, creativity expressing out.

As a whole, we people have always needed to express ourselves to others. From cave walls to the Louvre. From telegraphing to texting. From social visits to social media.

Self-expression creates community. It’s also part of our self-awareness process.

When we share with others, we actually create ourselves. Because what we focus our attention on, grows. We are magnets, in that what we offer attracts more of the same right back at us.

Who do you want to be? Okay, that’s pretty huge. Let’s begin with, What kind of day do you wish to have today?

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

The good news is that this is flexible. If you don’t like the current story of your life, or maybe just a particular chapter or passage, then change it. Begin by attending to how you visit and what you share with others.

When I describe a major event (such as a new job, empty nesting, or the passing of a parent) as going through a difficult time, then that’s exactly what it becomes. Yet when I describe the same situation as navigating a new normal, or charting change, or even maneuvering a milestone, I now have an entirely different experience of this life process. And I know which one feels better to me.

Beginning to make this switch is as simple as one word .  I can start with going from “What’s wrong?” to “What’s up?” 

What we pass along is who we become. What are you creating with your Likes and Shares? (Click to Tweet this. Yes, that’s irony.)

What we choose to share, defines who we are. C. Voyatzis
Did you have any Ahas? What would you like to attract more of in your life? Is it easier to forget to attend to what we express because of social media, or is it the same as when we did it over the phone or across the table from someone? Create yourself in the comments below. We’ll create ourselves together as we read and respond. 🙂

Cause and Affect

If you were the country’s First Spouse, what would be your cause?

Historically, First Ladies have championed a cause. Pursued a project. Motivated a movement.

Dolley Madison (1809-1817), orphan care.
Mary Todd Lincoln (1861-1865), Civil War soldiers and recently freed slaves.
Lucy Webb Hayes (1877-1881), women’s education, Civil War veterans.
Lou Henry Hoover (1929-1933), athletics, outdoors, education.
Eleanor Roosevelt (1933-1945), equal rights, among other humanitarian and national policy topics.
Claudia “Lady Bird” Johnson (1963-1969), beautification.
Betty Ford (1974-1977), breast cancer and later, addiction/mental health
Nancy Regan (1981-1989), drug abuse. Just say no.

Now imagine yourself in their position. It’s January, and your spouse will begin their first term as President. The focus and flurry has been immense, and everything in your life is new. Just when you are beginning to breathe, a smartly-dressed team member with a clipboard turns to you in a crowded room and asks loudly,

“So. What’s your cause gonna be?”

Whoosh. (That’s your breath leaving your body.)

Fortunately, the majority of us can breathe again right now as we come back into our own reality. And if the one person who actually owns the above reality is reading this, she can breathe too.

You go, girl.

Because there is no wrong choice.

And we can all choose to support a cause that interests us, right where we are, with what we have.

So again, what would your cause be?

Here’s a fun, quick, three-step exercise to guide you:

STEP ONE: What lights you up? For example, my list might look something like this:

  • My pet
  • Goat’s-milk soap
  • Fresh eggs
  • Family gatherings
  • A good talk with a good friend
  • Snowshoeing

STEP TWO: What are possible larger concepts of your specific items? Continuing with this example:

  • Animal welfare
  • Sustainability
  • Food industry
  • Eldercare
  • Mental health
  • Healthy movement

STEP THREE: Pick one. What are actions you can take to support this in your life, right now? Some ideas for these examples:

  • Donate a bag of dog food to your local animal shelter
  • Make a homemade soup
  • Buy from a farmers’ market
  • Call your Mom/Dad/Grandparent for an extended visit
  • Read an uplifting article from Heal Your Life
  • Stand up and move on the hour during your desk-job workday

And remember, offering up a prayer is also a right action.

You don’t have to be in a privileged position in order to have power. Your actions have an affect.

You make a difference.

Now it’s your turn. Share below some of your interests. Unsure of what a larger connection could be? Looking for ideas on actions you could take? Ask for help and see what gets sparked in this safe space of comments, below.

You are the light.