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Turn emotional lead into gold, like this:

The other day I caught myself reacting in my head in, well, not what I would in any form call a mindful, observing way. A thoughtless comment was made, I took it personally, and although neutral on the outside I was incredibly animated on the inside. Can you relate? I know, I know — thoughtless […]

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Benchmarks of leveling up in relationship

Watch the above video till the end. All the way through. Even if you think you know what is coming. Even if you’ve already seen it. (Oh, for crying out loud, it’s only four minutes and ten seconds to the end credits. Consider it easy meditation time, and just enjoy.) QUESTIONS TO PONDER, NOW THAT […]

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Miss Understood

Conflict develops when two people say, “Here’s how I need you to be.” Resolution emerges when one of those people says, “I allow you to be exactly as you are.” OneĀ of you. You don’t need both. You don’t need to agree. You don’t even need the other’s conscious awareness. Just your own.

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Your Experience Is Your Own. The Other Person Has Their Own, Too. Here’s How Both Thrive:

I will not attempt to control another’s experience. I got to live this the other day, and I tell you, I am having a completely different and much more elevated experience of relationship. If you have ever questioned your long-term compatibility with your spouse, a friend, or even your children, then read on.

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Perception and Experience

When your loved ones are seeing through a lens of frustration and negativity, do you help them see another way by sharing your perspective of optimism and light? How does that go for you? For myself, I have noticed that as a species we seem to have an underwhelming appreciation for being offered a way […]

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