Conflict develops when two people say, “Here’s how I need you to be.” Resolution emerges when one of those people says, “I allow you to be exactly as you are.” One of you. You don’t need both. You don’t need to agree. You don’t even need the other’s conscious awareness. Just your own.
I will not attempt to control another’s experience. I got to live this the other day, and I tell you, I am having a completely different and much more elevated experience of relationship. If you have ever questioned your long-term compatibility with your spouse, a friend, or even your children, then read on.
When your loved ones are seeing through a lens of frustration and negativity, do you help them see another way by sharing your perspective of optimism and light? How does that go for you? For myself, I have noticed that as a species we seem to have an underwhelming appreciation for being offered a way […]
You’re Getting Closer: One Year of Finding God and a Few Good Friends is Mollie Player’s journalistic view of her quest to both learn to “pray without ceasing” and to make true friends. She carries on a conversation with her readers throughout her experiment, and in so discovers her own inner dialogue–which is rich in wisdom for […]
When you are living end-stage pet hospice for the first time, you will wonder about making The Decision. Your friends who have experienced this will supportively assure you that you will know when it’s time, and great comfort is found in that. They lie. Go easy on them, they don’t mean to. They mean it […]