Transmuting Our Rants Into Raves

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I love how many free video series are out there on a variety of learning topics! I’ll happily spend my time with many of these. The most recent ones I’ve seen in my email inbox teach about increased self-motivation, support for writing and publishing a book, and creating balance between work and home. Short and sweet, these video series share ideas and tools to further myself in any particular area of interest. I experience quality Aha moments because of these gifts.

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I know, I know —  it’s a marketing tool. The model of four free videos dripped out in release over time has a predictable format: Three concepts with tips and tools and the fourth is a pitch to sign up for the in-depth course, workshop, or masterclass that follows. Yep. It’s a preview. A teaser. A crummy commercial.

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Even Ralphie has Aha moments.

Honestly, I have zero problem with this. The video series infomercial is given and intended as a truly helpful giveaway toward a larger helpful product option-to-buy. I have never once felt like a lesser human being when I simply enjoy the preview and do not purchase or pursue further. However, I’ve noticed a recent trend that I do have a problem with.

Marketing has now begun to call these video series commercials themselves a course, workshop, or masterclass. Instead of the helpful information about the course, workshop, or masterclass that it really is.

This cheapens the deeper learning experience.

It’s like calling the college visit the same thing as attending the classes. How valuable is that degree or certificate? How much has really been learned?

This is the point where I realized I have a rant. Which, to be honest, is not where I want to live. So, feeling my way through this, how can I bring myself back? What light can I find in this situation to see through the dark that I’m blinded by?

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Oh, there it is.

I can’t resolve the situation of who names what marketing ploys. But I can give my attention to the fact that they do it because it works — and the reason it works is a really good one:

People don’t want to be lectured to (commercial), but we do want to deepen our understanding (course). We don’t want to be presented at (preview), but we do want  personal experience (workshop). We don’t want to be told how (infomercial), but we do want guidance from respected experts (masterclass).

We are no longer interested in passively absorbing. We want to engage in creating meaning. So that’s where the marketers now start, not end.

The marketing has changed because people have changed. We respond to higher vibrations more, as a whole. In fact, we command them.

Now just watch and see how this concept plays out elsewhere for humanity’s goodness.

This, truly, is light.

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Now to you — what rant or righteousness do you carry? I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m just challenging you to find a way to transform it. Share in the comments below where you may be stuck, or where you’ve had your own Aha’s about it. Or privately journal, if you prefer. It’s because of sharing with you that I’ve worked mine out to where it is so far…

Buddy Holly Rave On

Rave On, Buddy.

Own Your Truth

You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.  Brene Brown

Assertiveness: the individual dance of finding our steps between strong-willed and compliant. As both an overall approach and within individual settings.

Many of us have experienced the help of others offering encouragement for us to be more assertive when we’re struggling. They tell us we need to ask for help. To delegate. To let go of some things.

  • “You aren’t expected to carry this out by yourself. Form a committee and create team members.”
  • “You are working yourself too hard to accomplish this for our organization. Assign some tasks to stakeholders.”
  • “How about relaxing with me tonight? Just leave the laundry.”

…Until it affects them, that is.

  • “Sorry, I’m too busy to be on your committee.”
  • “Uh, when I said delegate, I didn’t mean to me…”
  • “Where are my pants?”

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Disney's Alice in Wonderland facepalming.

Bert from Sesame Street's Bert and Ernie facepalming.

Calvin from Calvin and Hobbes facepalming

Statue of Jesus, facepalming.

Soldiers in tactical gear with palms covering one eye lens of glasses: Tactical facepalm, sometimes a regular facepalm just doesn't cut it.

Rather than try to make sense of others’ responses, just be aware of your own self. Hold your core.  Instead of blindly being the result of someone else’s own assertion.

 

Practice owning and standing in your truth. Let go of the outcome. And remember to not assert yourself merely selectively, in an effort to “spare” a particular someone. (You’ll discover that when you do that it oftentimes is at the expense of You — if you dare to truly  look at it.)

They can take it. And so can you. You’re worth it.

Assertiveness isn’t about getting in other’s faces. It’s not about managing situations to get the desired outcome; it’s simply about owning your truth.

What’s one thing today that you can own your truth about?

In the space between your thoughts, there is your truth

Change Is Easy: Here’s A Fun Way to Begin.

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Oh yikes, change. Talk about a loaded word.

Change is good. Change is hard. I don’t wanna change. I really wish he/she would change. I’m ready for a change.

Either way, change implies a separation. A gap between where I am here, and where I’m looking at over there. Crossing that distance can seem overwhelming.

I don’t know about you, but I can get bogged down with even starting. And then I learned a new way to look at change:

It’s simply something new.

You are already enough, here. And there’s nothing wrong with you over there, It’s just relocation. Another turn on the spiral.

When I see change as simply something new, it becomes fun.

I don’t need to reorder my life, I can simply give something a whirl. I’m not required to create world peace, I can just try kayaking. Who knows where it will lead? It may lead nowhere, but getting there might be everything.

Trying something new — even something small — is a dynamic reminder that it’s never too late to change your life.

Here are some random small acts of trying new things. What else can you think of?

  • Go a different route to your regular errands.
  • Take a chance on a movie.
  • Turn off media background sounds.
  • Cook dinner. Or, order out. Whichever is out of your norm.
  • Go for a walk instead of ________.
  • Wear the article of clothing that is at the very bottom of your drawer.
  • Switch up your parking spot.

Here are some random medium acts of trying new things. What comes to your mind?

  • Sign up for a Community Education class.
  • Get an instrument and learn to play it.
  • Experiment with a capsule wardrobe.
  • Add a digital book checkout to your physical library use.
  • Repaint a room.
  • Downsize your stored items, and live more with less.
  • Choose a new exercise/movement plan.
An electric roaster full of homemade dog food by the author.

I gave making healthy homemade dog food a try. (My dog loves it!)

So forget about change, crossing gaps, and end results. What’s simply one new thing you can try this week?

What I Learned on My Summer Vacation

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A good vacation shakes up your routine. A great vacation reverberates into an upgraded internal routine upon your return.

My amazing summer road trip with my hubby and dog was a really good vacation. It was wonderful to do some completely new things and to see some different sights together.

Selfie of the author and her husband in the car, with their German Shepherd in the backseat.

4500 mile road trip

We journeyed on a local pizza quest through seven states. We visited six national parks. We traded talk radio for audio books. One day we climbed around on a mountain glacier and the next we crab fished at sea level. We explored area craft beers. We watched whales. We saw oyster beds. We followed a wine trail and brought offerings home. We stumbled onto a sacred medicine wheel site and said hello to marmots along the path. We played in massive sand dunes. We explored a war memorial that was an exact replica of Stonehenge. We connected with family. I visited a distance friend in person. We took extra time to get to our destinations and discovered more of ourselves and each other along the way. We navigated by the stars in our eyes. (Well okay, and also by Google.)

Picture of a marmot in the rocks taken by the author

Marmot tour guide

When I returned home, I discovered that I was no longer the same:

 

I gave up my step tracker; I now go by how my body feels.

I threw most of my makeup away; I now feel more beautiful wearing less.

I drastically culled my closet; one right article of clothing replaces five that almost are.

I let go of keeping up digitally; I enjoy the moment without managing the past.

 

I also learned some amazing things about myself:

 

I need less than I thought.

I want to cultivate my relationship with my adult children more.

I absolutely LOVE my:

  • Life
  • Husband
  • Adult kids
  • Extended family
  • Job
  • Home

I am already doing much of which I hope to someday do.

I can simultaneously lead and receive, be strong and soften.

I haven’t missed a thing in the absence of regular news media.

Every moment with a responsive being is an opportunity to grow together. (Dogs and husbands!) And that I can bring the best of my own self to these moments every day.

The author's husband and dog

10,600 acres of white quartz sand dunes.

 

I’m excited for my eventual next holiday, although I still marinate in my recent one. It’s becoming my bones. And that, I must say, is creating an incredible structure.

How about you — are you due for a vacation? Are you still soaking one in?

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What ‘s on your horizon?

How Hairstyles Lead to Crab Fishing

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No, this isn’t an endless Google-search rabbit hole. (Although it could be — can anyone discover a link of six degrees from donating hair to crabbing?!? Bonus points if you can work in Kevin Bacon. Please share it in the comments!)

It is a discovery of how Life opens up when you begin to say Yes.

In stepping away from my decades-long tried-and-true hairstyle by donating my hair, I changed its style completely. I said Yes to letting go of safety that had become stagnant. I love my kicky new do, and I feel fabulous!

When I visited my brother on the Pacific Coast, he offered to take me crab fishing on his boat. I said Yes to being held in an experience that was utterly foreign to me. I loved allowing myself to relax and immerse, and our fresh-caught dinner was divine!

The author and her brother crab fishing on his boat.

When you say Yes to the Universe, you say Yes to yourself.

But be warned, this doesn’t mean you say Yes to everything. Still do a gut-check and/or a heart-check; it’s your brain that will either talk you into or out of the deal. I recently learned this with my eyebrow experience:

I was offered the gift of an eyebrow treatment while receiving another service. (Professional eyebrow care is not something I had ever considered before — clearly.)

In hindsight, my gut and my heart were not too thrilled about an in-the-moment eyebrow waxing and tinting. But my brain was so loud, and it knew the buttons to push.

  • “What a kind and generous offer! You wouldn’t want to offend by declining.”
  • “You said you wanted to learn to receive, right?”
  • “You know, you could be more spontaneous.”
  • “Didn’t you tell yourself that you are open to new experiences? Well?”

So I accepted the gift. And although my finished eyebrows were beautiful, I couldn’t see that. I only felt like I had tried too hard, and became incredibly less Me.

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No, I did NOT look like this. But I kind of felt like it…

I know: eyebrows, right?!?

The thing is, in hearing only my brain I missed discernment. It’s not about my eyebrows. It’s not even about our shoulds, receiving, spontaneity, or any other buttons we may have created for ourselves to push.

It’s about saying Yes with discernment. With authenticity. With personal truth.

So how do you know when your Yes is the right Yes, a Yes to yourself? When you’re responding and opening rather than pushing and proving?

I can’t tell you that.

But your gut and your heart will.

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Now to you: what have you said Yes to lately? Share in the comments below..

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