God Is My Social Media Manager
Posted on July 17, 2019 3 Comments
Sometimes you go through something so big that you cave in. Normally socially outgoing and engaged, for now you pull your energies in and keep them close. Your external Social Media Manager morphs into an internal Hermit.
Maybe you are going through a divorce. Your spouse has moved into nursing care. Or you are planning a funeral for your child. We’re talking about a life transition so impactful that you are temporarily pausing. For a very long time. Read More
Miss Understood
Posted on July 10, 2019 Leave a Comment
Conflict develops when two people say, “Here’s how I need you to be.”
Resolution emerges when one of those people says, “I allow you to be exactly as you are.”
One of you.
You don’t need both. You don’t need to agree. You don’t even need the other’s conscious awareness.
Just your own. Read More
The Archetype of Independence
Posted on July 3, 2019 Leave a Comment
Independence Hall
I very recently had the opportunity to visit historic Philadelphia for the first time. I assumed my connection to the place would come from the true awesomeness of being able to stand in places and touch items that are deeply profound to our great nation’s creation.
Yes, and… A full-body Holy Wow:
Physically standing in our nation’s history simultaneously with my own, I profoundly realized an Archetype of Independence. This became especially clear during a guided tour of Independence Hall. This archetypal pattern of Independence supports and guides us today, when we have to make the personal hard choices of breaking away in order to be true to ourselves. Whether physically or metaphorically. Read More
Miss Communication
Posted on June 26, 2019 1 Comment
Have you ever been in a conversation with a loved one in which you both just weren’t connecting? And the harder you tried to communicate, the worse it all went?
If you’re breathing, I’ll bet the answer is yes. (Because I’m breathing, too.)
Here’s what is actually happening, and here’s what you can do when you’re in it: Read More
Do The Next Right Thing
Posted on June 19, 2019 Leave a Comment
It’s good to see the big picture, to keep our envisioned outcome. And it’s easy to think that our immediate decisions and choices either make or break that outcome.
They don’t.
For example, maybe you have been stuck in analysis paralysis — where you consider all of your options so intently and you can’t see which is the *right* one to act upon, so ultimately you take no action at all while you keep thinking about which option to choose.
Or perhaps conversely, maybe you have kept yourself in complete and total action — yet you find you only move in circles instead of moving toward your goal.
You don’t need to discern the one right choice to make. It’s also not imperative to cover all of your bases.
Whenever you don’t know what to do, do this:
Do the next right thing.
In this moment, for this moment. Our moments make our lives.
The path to our goal is made of next right steps. It winds, it crosses over itself a few times, and it leads us home. Always.
What is your next right thing? Schedule your oil change, tell that person you love them, take a nap?
If you pause, and listen, you will know your next right thing.
