You’ve likely encountered a situation or quality that has both a “good” side and a “bad” side. An example of this might be accomplishment. Yes, we get things done. And yet, sometimes they’re done less fully just so that we can get to them being done. Further still, we can slowly become rather rigid and narrow in our process of how we accomplish things, both daily tasks and broader goals. Now everything is a chore, with only one right way to go about getting there. We can barely stand to be around ourselves, we’re so inflexible.
The opposite of this is also an example: rather than a linear set of rules for getting things done, we remain open to variations of how things might become accomplished. We hold a “let’s see what unfolds” approach. And yet, sometimes nothing gets done in our focus on keeping open. Or worse, what unfolds for us is really not what we wanted: we victimized ourselves by letting our daily tasks and our broader goals be formed without truly giving our own input. We can barely stand to be around ourselves, we never make a decision.
Two sides of the same coin. The light side and the shadow side.
By now we’re pretty good at recognizing shadow sides of aspects of ourselves — and avoiding them. Or, shining a light on them with the purpose of dissolving them. But what if we embraced our shadow sides? What if they are not actually aspects to overcome and erase? Read More
Growing. Transforming. Leveling up. Change. We all have things we’d like to be, do, or have that are different from where we’re at. We often call them goals. Sometimes we call them dreams. Either way, we’re looking at life from where we are (here) to where we want to be (there).
A new job. A move across the country. To open our own business. Travel. To be more patient. To develop self-compassion. Increase self-care. Understand ourselves.
Sometimes we kind of want our idea, to be over there. Other times we burn for it. But what keeps us from actually getting there? Read More
We all have dreams. Ideals. Goals. Some of us are fully aware of them, and to others of us they may appear less obvious. We can spot them as we say, “When I retire I will ___________.” Other times they can be found through our “three-, five-, and ten-year plans.” Whether we describe them specifically that way or simply hold a sense of that.
Ask yourself, what is it that you dream of for your life?
Next ask yourself: What are your current habits?
Are you giving more attention to your habits, or your dreams?
How can you change your habits now, to point you toward your dream? And if the word change is throwing you, try this: Read More
There is far more right with us than wrong with us.
Anything good can happen.
When we give our attention to how we want to feel — as an outcome of a goal, intention, or resolution — then our paths and our results become one and the same.
What would you like to turn toward?
Blessings to us all.