3 things I am grateful for from yesterday:
- Beautiful time spent with very dear friends.
- A hose and running water that made muddy-dog cleanup away from home effortless.
- Receiving a ten-year-in-the-making Aha! through incredible conversation with an amazing woman.
Each one of these just makes life better. Thank you, and Amen.
What are you grateful for today?
How we look at yesterday creates our today. How we create our today determines our tomorrows.
Notice your blessed day. Today, and every day. What three things can you share in the comments below?
We get dissatisfied, we want something else for ourselves. Something different. Something…more.
This is not ingratitude: we are meant to continually grow and evolve. To become.
Sometimes it’s a big outward thing, like a different job. Sometimes it’s a seemingly small outward yet great-big-huge inward thing, like more peacefulness.
You know the feeling, of when you are Here and you’d like to be There. It sometimes feels like urgency. Other times it is just a general, underlying meh.
Maybe you’re ready for a job where your newly developed strengths are needed and appreciated. Could be you feel over-busy and would like to have more breathing room. Perhaps your old patterns of relating to the people in your life no longer serve you, and you’d like some things to change.
But how do we actually get from Here to There? How do we make it show up in our lives? Here are three steps to get us going in our next right direction.
- Define what you want.
- Name an outside action you can take to support this, and by when.
- Identify the inside feeling that is associated with what you want, and follow that.
Here’s my most recent example:
- I want to be less busy. No longer house a hamster wheel in my head. I’m gonna own that. That’s my There.
- I will create a half hour in my afternoon to sit and read a book, before my to-do list is accomplished. I will do this at least three days a week, A fiction book for fun, not professional reading for work. And (gulp!) not a self-improvement or self-learning book that I happily have a stack of, waiting for me. (Before the work is done and something just for its own sake are two big deals for me, by the way!)
- To me, being less busy really means feeling more peaceful, no matter what’s going on in and around me. I now create that through my action (step #2). Further, I now learn to recognize that feeling in other places in my life. I can be mindfully present as I wash and slice the strawberries and blend my morning shake. I can feel my feet on the ground and breathe in the fresh air as I walk to the mailbox and back. I can pause to kiss my dog’s nose and make eye contact as I place her food bowl in front of her. In this way I learn to recognize — and cultivate — the feelings associated with what I want (step #1), that are available to me in a variety of packages.
We want the action because we want the outcome feeling. You can create it, and you can also find it.
And now, you have become what you sought. You are suddenly There.
(Hah! The irony is that it now becomes your new Here. And eventually you will look for another new There. May we be reminded that this is not ingratitude; it’s simply another turn on the spiral. Evolution and growth is good! Otherwise, we stagnate.)
What’s your example? First, what is it that you want right now? Next, what action can you take to support what you want, and by when? Finally, what’s the feeling that underlies what you want? How can you follow that feeling in other ways? Add your comments below, and share this post with someone you can team up with for support.
Could our lives really change? Are ease, joy, and grace truly within reach?
What if this became our daily prayer —
Just for today, I will not worry.
Just for today, I will not be angry.
Just for today, I will do my inner work.
Just for today, I will be kind to others.
Just for today, I will hold gratitude.
Could it really be that simple…?
I’m willing to try.
…Wanna try with me?
Remember that 1990’s Doritos commercial series? The one with the tagline, “Crunch all you want, we’ll make more.” Well, giving from the heart is a lot like that.
When you give unconditionally and with an open heart, the well never dries. For both others and for ourselves.
This applies whether it’s our time, our talent, or our treasures.
Sometimes it occurs to you to start a conversation with your headphoned teenager, but you read your book on the couch next to them instead. Occasionally you reach to empty the dishwasher, and then stop because it’s really your spouse’s turn. Maybe you think about leaving a larger tip on your lunch tab, and then don’t as you tell yourself maybe next time you will.
We all do this. We get the idea to go just a little bit further, and then don’t. We stay comfortable. We stay safe. We stay the course.
What if the next time you hesitate before giving beyond your norm, you checked in with yourself:
(Part four of four — Emotional, Physical, Mental, Spiritual)
Here’s where we’ve been with this four-part series on manifestation. First, we’ve felt the frustration of wanting X yet continuing to experience Y. Next, we’ve realized that the actions we take in any given moment support either X or Y — and to choose with awareness. Then, we explored our possible hidden commitments, the reasons that we unconsciously continue to create Y — and that opening to this is what helps us transition to X.
Because of all of these aspects so far, we come to a revelation. A How-To for actually becoming X. And if we would have skipped right to it, we would not have learned its depth: