How To Get Unstuck

Be easy about it. Don’t rush into things. Savor them more. In all that you do, let your dominant intent be to find that which pleasures you as you imagine it. Let your desire for pleasure — your desire for feeling good — be your only guiding light. As you seek those thoughts that feel good, you will always be in vibrational harmony with the Energy that is your Source. And, under those conditions, only good can come to you; and only good can come from you.

—Abraham

We’re in the process of replacing our car. Looking ahead at the time, it was in our five-year plan to do so, and, well, that was seven years ago.

We’re not in Emergency Status, we’re just trying to do the responsible thing.  We’ve been peeking at stickers and in windows for about a year, mostly on Sundays (wink).  Lately we’ve actually test-driven different models.  And we’re doing the math, moving from imaginary numbers to real numbers. (car (squared)= 2 therapeutic chocolate shakes on the way home)

Did I mention car shopping is not fun for me?

I want to accomplish this task, solve this problem, complete this assignment, get my gold star, and check this box off my current To-Do List of Life.

Except that I also want to do it right, and by that I mean making smart decisions–which I am not clear about yet . This leads to indecision, inaction, and being stuck. When I’m stuck, I’ve lost my perspective and don’t know how to move forward. For what feels like far too long.  And then I go into overdrive on my mental hamster wheel of “I’m not getting done what needs to be gotten done.”

Sound familiar?

It’s a process that many of us resonate with–and I don’t mean the car replacement.  But going in circles, faster, doesn’t produce forward motion.

I know how to get unstuck.  And the reason I forget is that it’s contrary by nature.

Stop doing. Start being.

Yep, it’s true: to get things done when you’re stuck, stop trying. Let them, and yourself, be.

Marinate. Percolate. Validate. Gestate. Assimilate. Saturate. Permeate.

Really feel it.

You might think you are spinning your wheels, when in fact you are generating insights. Instead of creating frenetic energy, you are increasing potential energy.
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And this time of being will produce calm, clear direction upon which you will then be able to act.  I promise.

You are not being irresponsible. You are creating authentic outcomes. Just on a different timeline, and–surprise!–with greater results. (Which, really, is more responsible anyway.)

Mindful inaction leads to focus in action.

Now breathe. Find the joy in it as it unfolds. You’ve so got this.

You know, exploring random cars is actually kind of fun! Hey, look what got posted on Craigslist today…

Hamster holding a sign advertising that his wheel is for sale!
Image from thestartupsessions.com

 

Reminder To Self

 

It wasn’t until near the end of this spring phone call that I realized he was breaking.

A college student learns a lot about navigating life, with many “firsts” piled on at once.

But you know what? After hanging up, I realized that all of us flow through these seasons no matter our age. And the same encouragement still applies.

So wherever you are, however your life is unfolding, your angels (or God, or FP, or Higher Self, or cosmos, or universal consciousness, or however you choose to describe your partnership within your spiritual belief system) want you to know this:

  • I’m so proud of you.
  • You are navigating this roller coaster of Life incredibly well.
  • Wake up every day and say Yes to it. Even when it’s hard. Be very proud of yourself for that.
  • It’s okay to have bad days. And to call home with them.
  • Keep your eyes and your heart open.
  • You are giving it your best; it’s okay if it doesn’t turn out perfectly.
  • It already is okay.
  • You already are enough.
  • I love you.
  • You’ve so totally got this.
  • We can always talk again tomorrow, if you like.

 

Sunrise of hope
Sunrise photo courtesy of Maui Bike and Zip Adventures

Rejecting Their Reality and Inserting Your Own

Do more of what makes you giddy.
Image from http://bravegirlsclub.com/

I’ve been receiving rejection letters, and I’m thrilled!

Okay, so my writing hasn’t been accepted for publication–yet. But you know what? The reality is I’m giddy that I’m now regularly putting it out there!

I’ve busted through my block of “not good enough,” by the action of submitting pieces and letting them go. Not some day, but now.

Life is like a giant Share button: some will enjoy what’s offered, and some won’t–but the point is that I’m passing it on. Opening up beyond my own self. Participating.

The outcome of a finished product is not tied to the value of it’s process.

Comment and share about your products and processes! 🙂

Spreading JOMO

By now you’ve probably heard of FOMO, or the Fear Of Missing Out.  Yep, it appears we have successfully made our junior-high insecurities into a celebrated phenomenon. Personally, I’m not okay with carrying my adolescent anxieties into my midlife evolution and beyond.

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Recently I learned of JOMO, or the Joy Of Missing Out. This too is becoming a cultural sensation, but this one validates.  It’s a repurposed Just Say No–a transformed teenage-era catch phrase that still resonates with my ripening self.

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Either fear-based or grounded in peace. We get to choose, and thus create our lives.  Either way.

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