Share and Share A Like

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As a whole, we people have always needed to express ourselves to others. From cave walls to the Louvre. From telegraphing to texting. From social visits to social media.

Self-expression creates community. It’s also part of our self-awareness process.

When we share with others, we actually create ourselves. Because what we focus our attention on, grows. We are magnets, in that what we offer attracts more of the same right back at us.

Who do you want to be? Okay, that’s pretty huge. Let’s begin with, What kind of day do you wish to have today?

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

The good news is that this is flexible. If you don’t like the current story of your life, or maybe just a particular chapter or passage, then change it. Begin by attending to how you visit and what you share with others.

When I describe a major event (such as a new job, empty nesting, or the passing of a parent) as going through a difficult time, then that’s exactly what it becomes. Yet when I describe the same situation as navigating a new normal, or charting change, or even maneuvering a milestone, I now have an entirely different experience of this life process. And I know which one feels better to me.

Beginning to make this switch is as simple as one word .  I can start with going from “What’s wrong?” to “What’s up?” 

What we pass along is who we become. What are you creating with your Likes and Shares? (Click to Tweet this. Yes, that’s irony.)

What we choose to share, defines who we are. C. Voyatzis
Did you have any Ahas? What would you like to attract more of in your life? Is it easier to forget to attend to what we express because of social media, or is it the same as when we did it over the phone or across the table from someone? Create yourself in the comments below. We’ll create ourselves together as we read and respond. 🙂

Dial Up Your Life with Your Snooze Button

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Do you want more out of life? More abundance, more joy, more prosperity? Maybe you feel like something is missing. Or perhaps you already feel incredibly fulfilled, and you’re looking to level up.

There is a simple way to immediately begin your no-fail path to prosperity:

Embody gratitude.

This is not your Grandma’s “Be grateful for those brussels sprouts, kiddo; now hurry up and clean your plate” attitude that you may be thinking. Saying the thing and feeling it are different. We’re talking about feeling it.

Being grateful doesn’t just make you humble, or a nicer person to be around (although those are some pretty good side effects). It doesn’t ignore your problems, your hardships or your reality — it simply changes them.

When I am grateful for what I’m experiencing, I am focusing on the good stuff. I have now put myself in a feeling state where my vibration matches all those good things that I desire. Now, as I move about my day at this vibration, I am a magnet for more of everything that’s at the same vibration. It can’t not find me! In fact, that’s all that can find me!

My favorite description of this is by Pam Grout. She likens it to tuning a radio. I wouldn’t ever set it to 98.4 FM and expect to pick up what’s being broadcast on the 106.7 wavelength,  would I? It would never in a million years cross my mind to tune into a country station and find random acid rock music. Likewise, I can’t dial in to the wavelength of self-righteousness and magically find a vibration of abundance. They just don’t match, and therefore can not be drawn to each other.

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Set your dial to the station you want. Change your own wavelength to match the vibration of what it is that you desire. Show up to meet it, and you will discover that it’s already there waiting for you.

The quickest and most direct way to match yourself to what you want is through gratitude.

Getting In the Gratitude Groove

Here’s a fantastic exercise by Louise Hay that will help you get your gratitude groove on. It takes about 5 minutes at the start of your day. I’ve been actively attending to this for a week now, and really feel the difference — not only when I do the exercise, but also when I forgot to! 😉

  1. As soon as you wake up in the morning, snuggle deeper under the covers and smile.
  2. Allow your bed to cocoon you. Feel this amazing feeling, and thank your bed for the night’s sleep. Thank your sheets and blankets for enveloping you. Thank your pillow for the peace. Hold this celebration and appreciation of right here, right now.
  3. Now extend this feeling of gratitude for those closest to you. Bring to mind and silently thank your spouse, your pets, your children, your friends for being in your life.
  4. Set your intention for the day and affirm for yourself: “This is going to be a great day. I look forward to today.”

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Be more specific as you become more comfortable, such as, “Today will flow with ease, joy, and love.” You can even be grateful for the first thing coming as you get out of bed: “My shower is gonna be great.” “I look forward to my exercise routine.”

You have now tuned your dial to the vibration of prosperity. Mindfully enjoy this station throughout the day.

Whoops. It’s noon, and I’m snarky.

Okay, we’re human. Old patterns pull us back. When you realize that “someone” changed your station wavelength when you weren’t looking, remember that gratitude is the quickest way to readjust your frequency. Stop, drop into your body and create gratitude, then roll with that feeling onto your next part of your day.

Stop, drop, and roll. Again. And again. Every time.

Feeling it is becoming it. And now you are it. Then more of the same comes rushing to you.

Notice that this is how it works, no matter what you are feeling. Either way, you are choosing your station.
Over to you: try this morning ritual for the next three days. (The immediate snuggling deeper in the covers is something to look forward to in itself!) Then, come back here and share your experiences. Has it helped? Any struggles? Do you wish to continue?

Follow Your Joy

I recently ran across a quote that I kept during a very difficult time.

Over ten years ago I was a single mom raising two young boys, working full time while going back to school. It was hard. But it was right. It was my Truth, so I knew that I could get through it. The situation itself was temporary, but at the same time a path to permanent improvement for all of us.

Although I don’t recall who this story is attributed to, I suspect it was Mae West or Marilyn Monroe? (If anyone can help me out with that, and get further with Google than I was able to, please comment below! I would be grateful!)

When (this woman) was asked by a reporter, “How did you enjoy yourself?” she replied, “Magnificently. But not at the time.”

I’m sure you have similar seasons you can look back upon, too. When your direct line to God was a constant, surrendered plea.

I prayed a lot for courage. (Thank you, Dad! <3) It became my new favorite word. I collected images, stories, and quotes, Here’s one in particular that was helpful:

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I already am that which I want to become.

And it worked.

I gained the courage to face my challenges, and with grace. In fact, I became so confident in being able to rise to the occasion that I began to say “Bring it on!” I repeatedly spoke aloud that Life could throw me all the curve balls it wanted to, and I would simply knock them out of the park again and again and again. Bring it on! I got this. Bring it on! Bring it on. Bring it on.

And it worked.

More and increasingly challenging situations — more curve balls– came into my life. Court subpoenas, leaking roof, health issues. I finally was stunned into awareness: my request was, “Bring it on.” And that’s exactly what I was receiving.

So I immediately changed my language and declared out loud, “I want to learn about joy.”

(And then I quickly amended it to, “I want to learn more about joy.” I didn’t want the Universe to think I was ungrateful, hadn’t been paying attention, or knew nothing about it at all!)

And holy cow, that worked, too.

Right away, I began to receive situations in which my only appropriate response was joy! Again and again and again. Manipulations no longer had power over me. A crew of new friends created a roof-repair weekend. I let go of health fears. We all began laughing more at home. The gift of finding my true partner.

I am still learning more about joy. Again, and again, and again. To this day, a decade later.

Does this sound good to you? Have courage, and bring on joy. Ask directly for it, daily.

And revel in what happens.

 

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A gift.

 

What Ebeneezer Scrooge, Sherlock Holmes, and Darth Vader Have in Common

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Even fictional characters sometimes receive unwarranted medical opinions. Doctors have diagnosed Ebeneezer Scrooge with OCD, Sherlock Holmes with autism, and Darth Vader with borderline personality disorder. –Sam Kean

Have you ever had someone else’s perception just absolutely throw you for a loop?

Perhaps your friend Scrooge tells a story and you think, “Wait — that’s not how it happened, and I was there!”

Maybe you’re quietly lost in beauty and awe of the fall scenery on a drive, and just then your spouse Sherlock remarks about how drab the season is this year.

Or perhaps you just learned that your sister Vader is furious with you because while you went out of your way to be complimentary during your visit, she only heard criticism and attack. Three days ago. 

In each case, you are absolutely staggered at where the other person has arrived in your shared situation. Because your reality is entirely different than theirs.

So, which reality is the real one?

They both are.

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Each of us creates our reality by our thoughts. Every day we get to choose. We are choosing, whether we are aware of this or not. We already have been for quite some time.

Choose wisely.

Don’t much fancy what you’ve gotten? Choose again. Yes, it is that simple.

That’s the difference between facing reality and creating it.

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And, you cannot choose for another person. Just like they can’t choose for you.

So those same shared situations? Let go of reconciling the different realities. Trust in your own, while allowing them theirs. You cannot get righteous enough, or preachy enough, or defensive enough, or apologetic enough, or sad enough to lift others up and make them realize that they are choosing too.

You’re not ever going to teach them how to vibrate, nor would you want to change them all to a place of vibrating just like you. Your work is not to fix them; they are not broken. Your work is to choose from among all of that which feels best to you, and fixate on it as long as it gives you pleasure and joy. And in doing so, you will align with the Energy of your Source, and you will live a magnificent experience. You just have to not let your joy depend upon what anybody else is living, cause that’ll get you every time.

—Abraham

Carry on in love. Follow your joy, hold your own reality when faced with theirs. And know that you’re not alone.

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They have their realities, too.

Look at the Treasure, Not at the Map to Find It

When you are in sync with the Energy of Source, which is the Energy of Well-being, Well-being is your experience. And when you’re not you don’t feel so good. Everything that you’re living is a perfect replica of the vibration of your being.—Abraham

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I’ve been in a slump lately. Maybe you also identify with sometimes not feeling so good, as Abraham describes it above. I like to think that even folks like Jesus, Buddha, and the drivers we pass on the road know what we’re talking about.

My previous style of pulling out of this would be to identify what and why I feel out of whack, and then muscle through in to overcome it. I would struggle my way back to my normal state of feeling good. And yes, it would work.

It occurs to me that my newly-learned approach to bold dreaming also applies here. Rather than struggle, ease and joy is another way to transformation. So what would that look like in this situation?

Instead of focusing on not feeling so good and working to overcome it, I can look to the well-being that I desire to return to. Bypass the “how”, the process of “getting there”, and just embrace right now what the desired end result would feel like.

The difference is in looking at the solution, not the problem. The treasure itself, not the map to find it.

Think Harry Potter, when he found the Sorcerer’s Stone in his pocket.

When I go straight for the Well-being, I discover I already have it. And that transforms me into being it.

Now it’s your turn. What’s your current treasure, your Sorcerer’s Stone? You already have it–feel it, to find it. Share in the comments what you’re discovering, and what you are wondering!