When Your Groove Has Become A Rut

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Here’s a story that I had been operating under a couple of years ago:

  1. Well-held values + Hard-won success = Living the dream
  2. Living the Dream = Lifelong happiness and fulfillment

When the solid earth of my dream job had over time crumbled out from under my feet, I had a bit of a personal crisis. This was my dream job, right? I had worked my butt off for it! When had it become a nightmare? Was I just ungrateful? Had my dream job abandoned me? Worse yet, was I the one who had given up on it?

What I had yet to learn at the time was that after over a decade, I had outgrown that dream. That it had expanded together with me as much as it was able to, and that I had more of me to become. That just because I now dreamed bigger and it was unable to go further did not mean the relationship had been in vain.

For the first time in my life I had true compassion for people who chose to just ride out their careers–for 30 years or more–and took up personal growth through developing new hobbies instead. Or they just started drinking heavily. 

We are meant to grow. We are meant to expand. Do not fear that being at your crossroads means you are dissing the road that got you there.

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Maybe you can identify with this personal questioning on your own journey…

If you are telling yourself that you made your bed and now must lie in it, I encourage you to take another look.. Yes, you made that bed. And, you can make another. Just because we started in a crib doesn’t mean that it fits us today. Or that it should.

But it was right and good and perfect for that time. Just as now is, at this time.

How far you have come is to be celebrated. Yet so is your moving beyond it. Let go.

And then, when we finally get what we want, we do all that we can to hold onto it. It is at this exact moment that we fall out of flow with Life. Like the wheel of Life that never stops turning, the longer you cling on and try to stay where you were, the more out of flow with Life you get. –Rebecca Campbell, author of Rise Sister Rise

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Once upon a time you dreamed a dream. You worked your butt off, and attained it.

And it was good, very good.

Now, you dream a new dream.

And this is good. Very good.

Rise.

What have you had to let go of in your past as you’ve grown into your present? Acknowledge it here in the comments. Our individual examples are universal stories. You are not alone.

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Indeed, it is as important to learn how to receive a blessing as it is to be willing to give one. –Joel Osteen

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I’m great at giving. Giving my time, giving my talent, giving my treasure. I love it. Not only is it my nature, I also cultivate it. I value giving to others. It gives them joy.  It gives me joy. And joyfulness makes the world a better place, in my opinion.

However, I kinda suck at receiving.

Up until now, my prideful giving side wouldn’t let myself receive. As if in doing so it somehow negated the giving. Like they would cancel each other out. Or that I’d get selfish and stop giving. As if receiving would be like a dazzling high from which I’d never come down, turning myself into a taking, selfish freak. First one’s free, kid.

I couldn’t be more wrong.

I’m sure you’ve heard the angle that in not-receiving, you deny the giver of the giving. And since you wouldn’t want to be denied in your giving…well, you see that you really should also receive. Great. Now I feel that Receiving = Guilt + Failure. Gee, this is fun.

The slightly less guilty version is that in receiving, you are actually giving the giver a gift. So, I feel better about receiving…but am I, really? Receiving? Or have I just reshaped it back into giving?

Then it finally occurs to me that in learning to receive, I enrich my entire giving/receiving interlaced experience. Which I do believe is true, and it also unveils the deeper learning that I’ve really got going on here…  

Receiving is tied to my vulnerability, my worthiness, and my self-value. Ouch.

But hold on. Let’s make that Ouch for the ripping off of the bandage, rather than for the wound. Because look–what’s actually underneath that covering is smooth, luminous, beautiful. There was nothing to protect in the first place, no flaw to heal.

That’s where I want to get to. So I’m finally ready to learn about receiving.

In my process I’ve discovered that I actually equate receiving with taking. And here’s my unconscious math from that one:

  • Giving is good.
  • Taking is the opposite of giving.
  • Taking equals receiving.
  • Receiving is the opposite of giving.
  • Receiving is bad.

 

Then I made a huge leap in understanding: receiving does not equal taking. Receiving is not the opposite of giving.

Receiving doesn’t undermine giving. Receiving and giving are each a side of the same coin. Two parts to one whole.

You could say that receiving is thus the opposite of taking! Which then completely debunks that whole funky math theorem.

And for those of us who also think in Language as well as Math, feeling as well as thinking, let’s examine new synonyms in order to help create new mental patterns. According to Thesaurus.com, some synonyms for Receive include:

  • Collect
  • Take in
  • Reap
  • Gather
  • Inherit
  • Perceive
  • Redeem
  • Be given
  • Come into

And another good one I realized as well: to receive is to surrender.

Holy cow, does that put a new light on the gift of receiving for me! 

I’m offering up a daily prayer: I’m ready to learn more about receiving.  I’m ready to surrender.

And I no longer fear that in doing so, my giving will be compromised.

 

Now it’s your turn: share in the safe space of the comments here how you feel about receiving. What’s your mental math around it? Or your learning language?

We are Divine enough to ask and we are important enough to receive. –Wayne Dyer

100+ Free Inspirational Audio and Video Lessons

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Hay House World Summit 2016

I’m so excited–the second annual Hay House World Summit begins May 7!

This is a free offering of audio lessons, videos, and movies by an extensive variety of experts in the field of wisdom, inner knowing, inspirational thinking, and flat-out upgrading your life.

Personally, I’m not going to miss the ones from Caroline Myss, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Gala Darling, Kris Carr, Deepak Chopra, Louise Hay, Christiane Northrup, Doreen Virtue, Gabrielle Bernstein, Michael Neill, Cheryl Richardson, Colette Baron-Reid, Gregg Braden, Rebecca Campbell, Sonia Choquette, Rha Goddess, Esther Hicks, Nancy Levin, Regena Thomashauer, Sophie Uliano, and the fabulous Pam Grout.

And I can’t wait to catch so many others!

Each week, beginning May 7 and over the course of 4 weeks, a batch of 25 sessions are made available. You get to pick and choose any or all that you’d like to experience, on your own schedule.  Plus, once you register you will receive helpful guides to navigate the summit in order to personally gain the most out of your experience:

  • eBook of worksheets, exercises, and additional resources
  • Summit schedule
  • Infographic to help navigate sessions by topic
  • Tips for personally getting your most out of the summit

 

Because I registered for free by May 6 (it’s still free after then), I received 4 bonus audio lessons from last year’s Summit:

  • Marianne Williamson
  • Brian Weiss
  • Deepak Chopra
  • davidji

 

I’m listening to the one by Deepak Chopra right now.  I know I experienced it during last year’s Summit, and I am enjoying its relevance all over again.

Last year was their first go-round with this, and I really enjoyed it.  Both the content and the format was exactly what I needed. (Of course–and thank you!)

SO–check out the Hay House World Summit 2016, it begins May 7.  If you’re reading this later than that, don’t worry–there’s no panicking in enlightenment! Give it a look and sign on when you can.  

And, if you miss it for 2016, there’s always this same time frame in 2017!

Looking at this year’s schedule, which are the top 5 offerings that jump out at you? Which one intrigues you the most? 

 

If this summit format intrigues you and you are tickled by the idea of healthy food and its sources, I encourage you to visit Stand Upon Grace’s post about the 2016 Food Revolution Summit.

What Hummus, Planking, and Willy Wonka Have In Common

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“What’s that?” I am repeatedly asked on a recent evening, as various family members walked by the kitchen counter and peeked through the glass-lidded pot.

“Chickpeas. Garbanzo beans,” I reply, looking up from the couch. I’d never noticed before how universal a confusion response is: one sharp backwards head movement, the snap of a corner mouth tug, a flash of eyebrows meeting. I wonder how often my own face flies into autopilot.

“They’re soaking. Overnight.” The confusion is now gone, replaced by an open smile of questioning.  “So that I can cook them tomorrow.  I’m making hummus.”  

And then I witness another universal facial response.  I’ll call it the “Huh. Cool!” Reaction. You likely recognize it: small head nods, mouth corners pulled back in a slight smile, eyebrows up. A nonverbal light bulb turning on. And my family members are not even big fans of hummus.

But they are big fans of me.  And being in the company of someone exploring their creativity is a happy contagion.

This time of year we emerge from our mental hibernation, stretch ourselves, and add movement into our days. It’s a time of expansion, action, and joy.

My husband is preparing to upgrade an existing wall with knotty pine tongue-and-groove boards. YouTube videos play regularly on his tablet, planks are stacked and staged on the office floor, and stain choices are being finalized. He is enthusiastic each day, and we get to share in the excitement.

My son is in the high school Spring Play and has rehearsal daily. In Willy Wonka–The Musical, he has successfully landed a role with neither singing nor dancing, and is thrilled. Plus, “Phineas Trout” is just fun to say. He comes home uplifted every day, and we get to share in the elevation.

It’s fun to see those you love follow what lights them up. Even if their topic isn’t your own personal gig.

And, it inspires you to act on your own creative hits!

Here’s a gift of a reminder to each of us, from Abraham, to follow our joy and expansion. Recognize and appreciate it moving through those you love, as well.

Follow what lights you up!

The purpose of your life experience is the joyful expansion that comes from the new ideas that are born within you. The expansion part of that is inevitable. The joyous part is about how well you are keeping up with the expansion.

~Abraham

When Nothing Works, Try Doing Nothing

In Dr. Frank Kinslow’s latest book about being and becoming, When Nothing Works Try Doing Nothing, readers are encouraged to slow down in order to leap forward. Link to book on AmazonAlthough initially sounding counterproductive, the Divine does indeed operate in paradoxes (Caroline Myss).

This book is a good reminder that as we act, we are also to allow.

The concept is a good one, and it has also been described variously as a spiritual process point of gestation, incubation, gathering, and/or re-energizing.  This book focuses on “How Learning to Let Go Will Get You Where You Want To Go.”

There is support and encouragement for understanding that you are complete just as you are, and for knowing that you have everything you need already inside of you. What we learn about ourselves truly does not come from outside, and this book intends to help readers tap into themselves.

Dr. Kinslow takes universal spiritual journey concepts and renames them according to a system that he has created and calls The Kinslow System. Although self-described as in opposition to what he calls the “scientifically baseless” positive thinking and Law of Attraction “movements”, I actually see his approach as seamless with these very philosophies that he opposes. They are all aspects of universal spiritual dynamics, and I disagree with the author: they are not mutually exclusive.

As this book’s core supports spiritual growth and wisdom, anyone could benefit from reading it. Those who are looking for a specifically prescribed program with uniquely system-named steps will especially appreciate this book.  Those who are not may still find something interesting here.

The author sent me this book in exchange for my honest opinion of it; I was not financially compensated for writing this review.

Link to purchase this at Amazon