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Maximum capacity

The other day my husband and I were watching some show, and one character says to another, “I’m thinking about retiring.” To which the other character, a work colleague, replies, “From WHAT?!?” And we laughed really hard and out loud together! Because who hasn’t been in the situation of comparing workloads in a given moment, […]

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Every. Day.

Not only now… But always. Does this scare you, or excite you? I’ll be honest, it has elements of both. “Change?” Scary. “Transform?” Exciting. Change can carry a feeling of loss. Well, I guess things change. Transformation carries a sense of becoming. Like a butterfly. Evolve? Well now, that feels like a nice, gentle, gradual […]

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Busted!

It occurs to me that “busted” is a different word for awareness. As in, I’ve been kind of fooling myself and now I can actually see that. I can’t concentrate on my work projects because the TV is too loud in our shared space, again? I’ve been hiding behind my accommodating nature instead of speaking […]

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What do you mean, I don’t actually have to put up with this…?

I had a Holy Wow moment the other day that basically took me out at the knees. The kind of awareness that feels like your actual brain inside your physical skull is quite literally being turned upside down. I realized that a quality I possess, and have always considered it a strength, is actually ruining […]

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When helping doesn’t actually look like helping…

Which help is assisting & supporting, and which help is rescuing & enabling? How long do I let someone experience productive struggle, before stepping in? If it also makes my life better when theirs is smooth, can I simply allow and be with their bumpy upset and discord — without taking it on, myself?

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