We are celebrating, today!
Posted on April 6, 2022 Leave a Comment
Today, my friends, marks six years of weekly posts here! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for being a part of this space — and for being such an inspiration!
Ten years ago this space was begun, and after four years of enjoyable random posting. a commitment was made to sharing regularly, every week. A personal commitment to creativity.
Just by asking, “I wonder what would happen if I (insert your own idea here)…”
Read MoreReverse-engineering happiness and success
Posted on March 30, 2022 Leave a Comment
The old story of how to feel good goes like this: “If this (insert success here) happens, then I’ll be happy.” You know what that looks like — when we get the job, land the contract, get the love interest, win the lottery then we’ll be happy.
Those pretty big-ticket items are fairly obvious, but it can look a little sneakier on a daily basis. What are your small wishes? For someone to clean the bathroom, unasked? For your spouse to be a little more cheerful? For the weather to be drier/wetter/stormier/calmer/sunny/not quite so hot? And then life would be better?
Here’s the deal: things become better because we are happy, not the other way around. And for those who need it, there is scientific proof of this.
Read MoreMore daily self care
Posted on March 23, 2022 Leave a Comment
We care for ourselves when we pay attention to what is also already going right, and not merely just what we are overcoming.
Are you navigating arthritis in your hands — and you are able to open most containers?
Did you forget deodorant on your recent shopping trip — and you remembered toilet paper?
Did you contribute excessive background noise during your last virtual meeting — and you share space with beings you adore?
Are you putting in extra hours on that project — and your spouse is responding by quietly doing “your” chores, unasked?
You are really knocking it out of the park — YAY, YOU!!! Keep at it, you’ve got this!
— AND—
What else has been going well, maybe even all on its own?
Self care is also in the moments
Posted on March 16, 2022 Leave a Comment
We hear a lot about self care, and quite honestly that’s a good thing. We can’t truly be of help to another unless our own cup is full, too. There’s a difference between service and martyrdom…
It’s easy to think of self care in the bigger acts. Who doesn’t love the idea of really treating ourselves — whether it’s a massage, a housecleaning service, or a week in the Bahamas?
Me, I’m very much looking forward to having a hot tub again one day. What’s your big-ticket wish list for self care?
It’s also easy to think of self care in the daily acts. This is the thing you give yourself at the end of the day in order to feel either a healthy maintenence or to bring back some sense of balance. Think watching a movie, having someone else cook supper, scrolling on electronics — the things that make us feel like we are taking a little break. The things we actually can do today, and not just have to save it all for our someday wishes.
Lately for me this has looked like taking the time to read a book. What’s your current day’s end go-to?
But the thing is, self care is not just about about the big-ticket items or the reward at the end of the day. Self care is in our moments along the way, too.
Read MoreSometimes you have to just surrender to the adventure
Posted on March 9, 2022 Leave a Comment
Did you know that laundry can be an adventure? Me neither. Until those facilities here at our Winter Quarters shut down because of frozen drainage lines. Closed until spring thaw.
Isn’t it interesting how something can make total sense and yet be so surreal at the same time?
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