The Honeymoon Effect

Hay House graciously gave me the book The Honeymoon Effect: The Science of Creating Heaven on Earth by Bruce Lipton, in return for an objective review of it.

The Honeymoon Effect

First off, don’t let the title scare you.  This book is much deeper than the cover alludes to, and that is hugely appreciated.

The Honeymoon Effect is described as: “A state of bliss, passion, energy, and health resulting from a huge love.  Your life is so beautiful that you can’t wait to get up to start a new day and thank the Universe that you are alive.”  Oh my goodness, doesn’t that sound appealing?!?  This book truly is for more than looking for a healthy life partnership.

Yes, this is a relationship book.  And although much of it is aimed at the love story of my life, I also gained insight into my friend and work relationships.  As with many things, Rumi’s included advice is a good touchstone: “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.  Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

What I appreciate about this book is that although Rumi’s words are indeed true, the reader is never burdened with carrying the weight of a relationship single-handedly.  This book helps you see how to align yourself with and create truly healthy interactions, how to spot the ones to avoid, and how to maintain yourself in the ones you may not be able to escape.

The concepts of biology, quantum physics, chemicals/hormones, conscious/subconscious minds, and chemical bonding as an example for relationships are important aspects of understanding this Honeymoon Effect.  Whoa, don’t panic!  The author, in a magnificent feat of teaching, somehow explains each in their own chapter in a way that is very flowing, incredibly easy to read, and completely understandable on a personal and daily level.  Who knew?!?

Doesn’t “Our Drive to Bond,” “Good Vibrations,” “Love Potions,” “Four Minds Don’t Think Alike,” and “Noble Gases: Spreading Peace, love, and Tulsi Tea” sound…well, not like academics?  Even maybe intriguing, and fun?  They are!

Two things personally rose to the top for me in this book: the author’s sharing of a toxic relationship, and some quantum physics language I learned.

First, this book reinforced that it is okay for me to acknowledge toxicity, that it exists.  That because I can pour much love and goodness into such a relationship with a person is not enough of a reason to do so.  That perhaps I alone can not fix it.  To not talk myself out of or rationalize visceral reactions I may receive.  That I am not making them up or overreacting, that predators do exist.  And that they by their nature search us out.

I was focusing on positive thinking, which meant I didn’t want to think about or acknowledge the reality of human predators.  I was also trying to focus on forgiveness…. “He wasn’t such a bad [person] after all,” my rational mind was telling me.  All the while, my still erratically behaving heart wanted to escape! ….We override our feelings when our rational minds focus on words, especially when the’re spoken by silver-tongued swindlers….  (p. 27-28, Kindle version)

Now when I encounter such people, I am much kinder to myself.  And, if I’m to be honest, I’m much kinder to them because I don’t need to be so angry or protective with my energy.  I’m much more able to detach in their presence, keep myself safe, see the situation with open eyes, and act accordingly.

Secondly (and this one makes me laugh out loud!), I am having such fun with the quantum physics language that I learned!  It’s not necessary for understanding the book, don’t worry–it’s just a quirk of mine.

Who knew there’s a name for when my energy interacts with another’s–that’s called entanglement.  My mind jumps immediately to my spouse, and that’s just fun on many levels!  Those of you who have been married for a short time are likely thinking a thing, and believe me that counts.  But those of you who have been married longer are laughing even harder at the depth of what that covers, aren’t you?!?  Entanglement makes me love the inherent emotional intimacy, especially when I think of my spouse.  The word also makes me see my friend, acquaintance, and work relationships in a new light, and I am much more discriminating and aware of where and why I choose to place my energy.  Another yay!

However, my favorite newly-learned quantum physics language is interference.  Superb examples of dropped stones in a pond make this explanation crystal clear and is reason alone to read this book.  Basically any time there is entanglement there is interference, that’s all.  The bottom line is that good vibes are constructive interference, and bad vibes are destructive interference. 

Good news Honey, I’m “constructive interference!”

I shared this with my husband, and I can’t even tell you how much laughter and mileage we are together getting out of this!

The Honeymoon Effect is a fantastic read, I was pleasantly surprised by its depth, and it is easy to follow.  Anyone who is interested in any type of personal growth, specifically of the self both alone and in relation to others, will gain something from reading this book.  I was fairly skeptical when I began, yet now I consider this book a must-read.

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Your Hidden Symmetry

Your Hidden SymmetryI received this book from Hay House in exchange for my honest opinion of it.

I have anticipated Your Hidden Symmetry: How Your Birth Date Reveals the Plan for Your Life by Jean Haner, ever since I read and loved her other two books: The Wisdom of Your Face and The Wisdom of Your Child’s FaceIf you have read either of those, you will very much enjoy her newest publication.  If this is your first foray into her insight, fear not–this wisdom tool is completely different from her others!  If you are at all interested in learning more about who you are and how/why your life unfolds the way it does, go get this book now.

Jean uses Chinese Nine Star Ki to show readers how to find their three “shorthand numbers” that define one’s true nature.  Using these, an individual is able to understand personality patterns and see the greater plan of their life journey.  She clarifies that this is not numerology–I feel if you have also explored numerology then you will definitely want to add this book to your library.

My hidden symmetry numbers are 5.9.1.  The first number represents the overall personality, or who I came here to be on this journey.  The second number describes the emotional self, particularly helpful with understanding the feelings and actions I turn to under stress.  The third number relates to how one does their work in the world, also insightful about my recurring challenges and ultimate purpose.  Deeper explanations are shared in the book, in an easy-to-discern format.  It is laid out so that the reader can easily jump around and find the passages of interest, at all points along the way.

This book is another great tool for use in learning more about my unique self and how to reach my fullest potential.  Affirmations from Louise Hay correlating to the numbers specifically remind me that I am cosmically sustained and loved, that I am enough just as I am.  If you are even remotely interested in such topics of personal insight, growth, and support you will be glad to experience this book!

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Living Beyond Our Challenges

Challenge sounds so much more manageable than struggle.  And when we’re in it, we need all the help we can receive.

Fragmenting on a daily basis

I seem to be losing my mind lately

We may go through phases when we fragment daily, only to piece ourselves together enough to repeat the cycle the next day.  You’ve been there, you know what I mean.  Thankfully, these cycles aren’t permanent.  But it is a treadmill of mindless routine that seems to replace mindful ritual.  Yet it’s the routine that allows us to carry on when we are broken down to only the basic elements of getting through the day… the hour….  This too shall pass, I know.

We may find a gift of power hidden in ourselves when we are driven so very far past our limits.  It is here where we find another of our deep truths, and more of our passion.  Sometimes it is also found by its noted absence during these trials.

I also am comforted by the thought that these truths and passions of Self are also learned through peaceful times–we are not doomed to turmoil in order to grow.

I say it’s time for more of this, now.

Do Not Go Quietly

Do Not Go Quietly (A Guide to Living Consciously and Aging Wisely for People Who Weren’t Born Yesterday), by George and Sedena Cappannelli, was given to me by Hay House in exchange for my honest opinion of it. Do Not Go Quietly

The introduction reveals that over the next decades half our population will be age 50 and older, for the first time in history.  This book targets the demographic revolution that is occurring and how we affect in an unprecedented manner the political, social, economic, technological, environmental, and cultural influences.

Specific population groups included here are older GenXers (40 to 45), Boomers (46 to 64) and Elders (65 and beyond).  These groups are celebrated for having the opportunity, time, talent, resources, and experience to mindfully facilitate this breakthrough that is happening.  Well, hey–as I both fit into the target audience and am all for mindfully furthering a direction to a betterment of an outcome, I was all excited to read this book.

I have to say I liked the large number of quotes from a variety of very familiar and widely accepted icons in the field.  The personal stories of specific people who are wonderful examples of what the authors are encouraging were very uplifting and interesting. I also appreciated what a great overall message the authors had to share of continuing to create a life of quality and accomplishment, especially as we all move into this next beautiful chapter of our lives.  There is a lot of very good encouragement and support for who we are, where we’ve been, and where we can still go–on an individual as well as collective level.

There were a couple recurring areas of struggle that I had, and so I simply treated these as “to each their own.”  Yet it did bog me down a bit in the overall product.  Apparently more than a bit, otherwise I wouldn’t feel the need to mention them….

I can get past the recommendation that one of the most valuable and powerful models of living is a commune.  I suppose I can also choose to move forward from the repeated recommendation to embrace recreational hallucinogenic drugs in order to expand my spirituality.  My spirituality and I are not presently confined, but maybe that’s hard to imagine without pharmaceutical assistance.  What the authors perhaps meant as encouraging instead felt divisive.

The most challenging aspect for me was that I felt a pervasive agenda throughout the book, when I was expecting spirituality instead.

Okay, I am fully aware that perhaps the authors and I are simply in separate demographic age groups.  Or maybe we are in the same age group but have some areas of vast difference in how we experience and perceive life.  All of that is well and good, and I’d like to focus on the parts of the book I appreciated more than the things that made me defensive. (Although the fact that the book had aspects that made me feel defensive is significant…you decide!)  Here they are, in a nutshell:

Support for continued contribution, accomplishment, development, and personal growth.  Great quotes from recognizable spiritual leaders.  Uplifting life-story examples.  Ultimately, we readers bring our own selves to the piece–if you are remotely interested in this book I would certainly recommend giving it your time and energy.

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One Thousand Gifts

One Thousand GiftsOne Thousand Gifts, by Ann Voskamp, is a beautiful guide to living grace and gratitude in the middle of regular daily life.

“A dare to live fullly right where you are”, this book does not pretend a perfect practice–but it delivers a spiritually supported process.

Constantly, consistently, with personal failings.  Embrace the imperfections, begin again.  The journey itself is a lifestyle that will transform and ultimately save you.

Download the app and use it as a sharing tool to help expand your shifted view of life.  I have no account with Facebook or Twitter, but I use this app for its uplifting quotes that meet me at its window.

There is an abundance here to explore, and I learn more every day.   May it cradle you as well.

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