Peace Offering
Posted on August 24, 2016 Leave a Comment
So as I sit in the flowers in my mental meadow and breathe the mountain air, I just came across another thing to ponder about giving my input to life.
Being at peace with yourself is a way of going through life eschewing conflict and confrontation. ~Wayne Dyer, 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace.
What?!? So where’s the balance with having little to no conflict and confrontation, versus giving input to life and fully owning my truth? Is taking others’ opinions and desires into account, and therefore keeping the peace, actually a form of non-participation? Am I hiding from my own life by quietly being so aware of not blocking others from stepping into their own?
Aha–I think I’ve just stumbled onto something. There is a difference between keeping the peace and being at peace.
Keeping the peace is adjusting my input to life, in order to avoid conflict. Being at peace is participating in life, and not being inhibited by conflict.
I think the thing I need to pay attention to here is that conflict is not to be feared. Or automatically avoided. Even if I don’t like it. Which I don’t.
Belligerent individuals who live in turmoil and revel in hostile encounters send out nonverbal energy that adversely impacts those around them. The immediate impulse is to remove yourself from these low-energy, nonpeaceful people because sticking around means tension and a lowering of your energy. ~Wayne Dyer, 21 Days to Master Success and Inner Peace
As we step more fully into ourselves, some people will accidentally be challenged. We are going to cause waves. We will make some folks uncomfortable. But we can do it peacefully, standing in our truth while allowing room for others.
When I am at peace with myself, I am not conflicted, and I participate in life.
No matter if I choose to speak aloud or not. No matter what you decide to do around me.
What are your thoughts about participating in life through knowing and/or speaking up? About how peace and conflict mingle in an individual? Please share a comment in this safe space, below. I’d love to learn more about this, through your stories.
Life Wants Your Input
Posted on August 17, 2016 3 Comments
Don’t try to figure out what other people want to hear from you; figure out what you want to say. It’s the one and only thing you have to offer. ~Barbara Kingsolver
I’m pretty good about speaking up when I have something to say. Just ask anyone from my grade school playground, my college roommates, or my husband.
What I’m not always so good at is recognizing what it is that I have to say.
I can outlast you in the car at lunchtime in not making a decision on where to go to eat. And I justify it by the fact that I truly have no desire for anything specific in that moment. I even say aloud, “No, really, if I had an opinion about it, I would most definitely say so.”
I don’t need to have an opinion about everything. And yet…
The hardest part of speaking my truth is identifying what it is that’s worthy of sharing. Worthy to whom?!?
That’s actually hiding. Playing small. Staying safe. Not putting myself out there.
Because it doesn’t have to be perfect before it’s portrayed. We write, speak, paint, sing, create, and breathe for ourselves, not for others.
And Life needs us to participate. Just as we are. Now, in progress. Perfectly imperfect.
We don’t need to wait until we’re fully inspired before we speak. We don’t have to “save” it for the big stuff. Life is an ongoing conversation, not a final decree.
My voice is for whispering in the meadow as well as shouting from the mountaintop.
I’ll meet you for a picnic lunch.
If You Allow It, It Will Come
Posted on August 10, 2016 4 Comments
Lately I feel a growing overwhelm. There are actual separate events, with time frames, in every realm of my life. Things are good — great, even. There’s just…a lot of it. All at once.
It’s an abundance of abundance.
And then I realize that this allowing thing not only works for my external successes, but my internal ones too. Such as, my sense of well-being.
Abraham has got it going on:
We would like you to release the word “achieve” or “earn” from your vocabulary and from your understanding, altogether; and we would like you to replace those words with the word “allow”. You’re wanting to allow your Well-being, not achieve it. It’s not something that you need to earn. All you have to do is decide what it is you would like to experience, and then allow it in order to achieve it. It isn’t something you have to struggle for or try for. You are all worthy beings. You are deserving of this Well-being.—Abraham, Excerpted from: Detroit, MI on July 08, 2000
When I feel overwhelmed, I’m focusing on the situation. (Otherwise known as The Problem.) This is when I need to remember to focus on how I want to feel, instead. (In this and most cases, peace and well-being.)
My well-being is already inside me –and all I have to do is recognize that.
And in simply remembering that I already have it, I can allow it.
Which causes me to feel it.
And now I am it.
Namaste.
Crossing the Chasm Between Your Dreams
Posted on August 3, 2016 3 Comments
Last time, I worked my ass off for my success. This time, I’m going to do it with ease.
Ease doesn’t mean it won’t be challenging. It doesn’t mean I don’t do the work.
Ease doesn’t mean it will be a breeze. Or that I don’t have to show up and do my part — Every. Single. Day.
Ease means that the way is cleared and the obstacles are removed as I move along my path. It means that angst is optional.
This process carries peace, not struggle.
Instead of attaining your dreams, you can allow them.
Instead of striving, you can glide.
And you will indeed arrive on the other side.
The Art (and Challenge) of Allowing
Posted on July 27, 2016 Leave a Comment
Neither others’, nor our own.
I notice that I’m expanding my perceptions as I move through the Triple Goddess archetype, the Maiden-Mother-Wise Woman cycle. In my current stage I allow for myself, whereas in my youth I used to “fix” myself. I stand in my truth, I have more compassion for me along the way, and I spend time with only those who let me be who I really am.
Okay, okay. Since I don’t live on a private island, I don’t get to actually hand-pick everyone that I encounter.
How well do I know myself?
Sometimes we run into folks who just don’t “get” us. I’m talking in a frustrating, clashing kind of way. Like when you mutter under your breath when you see that person approaching you. (Noble adversaries are like that.) Hey, it happens. Usually when you are tired, or otherwise run down.
And the more we stand firm in our discovered self-allowing, the more confused they get about us. So we decide that they’re the one who is short-sighted.
Guess what? It’s time to cough up our daily allowance. We need to focus less on our needs and more on our tolerance.
Because if I want to be allowed to fully be myself, then I must allow others to be themselves, too.
Even if I’m just confused by them.
What’s the difference between fixing ourselves and becoming more of ourselves? How does allowing from within dance with allowing from external factors as well? Please share your thoughts with a reply, in this safe space, below. ❤
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