Do This One Action to Instantly Rebalance

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I’ve been spending a lot of time on a creative project. When I’m not working directly on it, I’m mulling it over in my head. I even continue working on it in my sleep, considering next moves and possible results regularly in my dreams. It’s the kind of immersion where I figure I’ll cook tomorrow, I’ll save housecleaning for the weekend, and suddenly it’s two (okay, three!) weeks later with neither having occurred.

As great as my project is going and as much as I love working on it, being this focused also has it’s shadow. As an empty-nester, lapses in domestic upkeep have actually been liberating — but diminished eye contact and lack of regular connection with my husband does not make me feel fabulous.

Also, in being so deeply attuned to only one glorious aspect of myself I have discovered that I actually miss — the rest of me.

Have you experienced this?

There is a remedy, and it also works as a prevention:
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Reality? Check!

So you’re choosing to quit tuning into what Pam Grout calls station KFKD, and to instead tune into awesomeness and joy.

The deejay at the old station, otherwise known as the voice in your head, will try very, very hard to get your attention back. It tries to convince you that you’re not creating your reality, but that your situation is. That your out-of-gas lawn mower, stupid plugged-up sink, and uncooperative weather are real–and that you just can’t stick your head in the sand about that. The other voice–the deeper, purer one from your soul–encourages you to be your own deejay and play what makes you feel good. It encourages you to discover that since it’s raining, there’s no hurry to mow the lawn now anyway. And as long as you’re going into town to get gasoline for the mower, you could easily pick up drain opener. If you tune into this frequency, you’ll find that the weather is actually cooperative, because it provides you with time to both attend to the drain and prepare to be able to mow the yard. Well, looky there! It’s all in how you look at it!


Even Kronk understands this.


To be fair, there are actual other people who will tell you the same thing that the snarky voice in your head does. They say that you can’t ignore reality, that it doesn’t go away just because you aren’t looking at it.

I say that’s crap. I say that’s precisely what happens

Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. That million people pushing against you are affecting their millions of vibrations. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction, but it does not affect you unless you push against them.—Abraham

Both realities exist. The real question is, which one is more fun? Which brings us more joy? The one we give our attention to is exactly the one we create for ourselves. Why choose doom and gloom? Why not choose what lightens our heart?


Which do you prefer to look at?


Some may worry that you’re being ignorant. You’re not. You’re simply choosing bliss.

Carry on.


How Not to Drop the Ball

You don’t have to work at being in the high vibration that is natural to you, because it is natural to you. But you do have to stop holding the thoughts that cause you to lower your vibration. It’s a matter of no longer giving your attention to things that don’t allow your cork to float or don’t allow you to vibrate in harmony with who you really are.—Abraham, Excerpted from: Silver Spring, MD on April 19, 1997

I realize that I’ve been working pretty hard lately at juggling a few things. I don’t want to drop any of the balls I’ve got in the air, and right now there are a few. Last first-year college move into the dorm. 90th birthday gathering. Heavy work schedule. It’s all good stuff, and I’m pretty on top of things–if I do say so myself.

Then why do I seem to be floundering a bit? A little unsettled? Needing more naps? I thought I’ve got things pretty well managed, after all. Well…there’s my problem. I’ve been managing the upcoming outcomes instead of enjoying the process along the way.


I seem to have forgotten that I don’t have to orchestrate and direct my life. I’ve slipped back into making my feeling-good state be something to earn, a reward for after having worked hard–instead of simply remembering that joy is my natural state, now.

I want to get back on my glide. To do that, I remember what Abraham says in the quote I shared above. I stop working toward the joy, and realize I already am it. The rest are just the physical details of life.

When I give more attention to those details than to how I want to feel, I’m holding thoughts that bring me down. Because I’m looking at the situation. To maintain altitude, I need to simply look at only awesomeness. Feel my joy. That’s not ignorance–that’s choosing bliss.

The details are still there, but now they’ve transformed. And so have we.


A Handy Tool for Navigating Change



The fallout is happiness.


Here’s a soul-saving response for when you’re asked how your new endeavor is going.

“It’s working.” (Insert genuine smile here. 🙂 )

You know what situation I mean. You’ve made a change in your life that is deeply personal, has a significant impact on you, and is kinda scary. What form the actual change takes is not the point–the fact that it is a deep change for you is what matters.

Maybe it’s a decision to alter your eating habits. Or begin a meditation practice. Or switch careers. Or write a book.

Or perhaps it’s a change you didn’t choose, but rather one that chose you. Like becoming a grandfather by your teenage daughter’s pregnancy.  Or navigating with your aging parent. Becoming widowed.

At some point you’ll run into people who ask you how you’re doing. And whether they ask out of genuine concern for you or out of their own free version of reality drama, your personal process is at stake with what you say next.

Because your response is the story that it will become. The words you use to describe your feeling for that moment become the stone tablets that others revere as unchanging gospel. And that’s the story they share with others. Widely.

So, how is your story going?

I’ll bet it’s working!

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