The Honeymoon Effect
Hay House graciously gave me the book The Honeymoon Effect: The Science of Creating Heaven on Earth by Bruce Lipton, in return for an objective review of it.
First off, don’t let the title scare you. This book is much deeper than the cover alludes to, and that is hugely appreciated.
The Honeymoon Effect is described as: “A state of bliss, passion, energy, and health resulting from a huge love. Your life is so beautiful that you can’t wait to get up to start a new day and thank the Universe that you are alive.” Oh my goodness, doesn’t that sound appealing?!? This book truly is for more than looking for a healthy life partnership.
Yes, this is a relationship book. And although much of it is aimed at the love story of my life, I also gained insight into my friend and work relationships. As with many things, Rumi’s included advice is a good touchstone: “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
What I appreciate about this book is that although Rumi’s words are indeed true, the reader is never burdened with carrying the weight of a relationship single-handedly. This book helps you see how to align yourself with and create truly healthy interactions, how to spot the ones to avoid, and how to maintain yourself in the ones you may not be able to escape.
The concepts of biology, quantum physics, chemicals/hormones, conscious/subconscious minds, and chemical bonding as an example for relationships are important aspects of understanding this Honeymoon Effect. Whoa, don’t panic! The author, in a magnificent feat of teaching, somehow explains each in their own chapter in a way that is very flowing, incredibly easy to read, and completely understandable on a personal and daily level. Who knew?!?
Doesn’t “Our Drive to Bond,” “Good Vibrations,” “Love Potions,” “Four Minds Don’t Think Alike,” and “Noble Gases: Spreading Peace, love, and Tulsi Tea” sound…well, not like academics? Even maybe intriguing, and fun? They are!
Two things personally rose to the top for me in this book: the author’s sharing of a toxic relationship, and some quantum physics language I learned.
First, this book reinforced that it is okay for me to acknowledge toxicity, that it exists. That because I can pour much love and goodness into such a relationship with a person is not enough of a reason to do so. That perhaps I alone can not fix it. To not talk myself out of or rationalize visceral reactions I may receive. That I am not making them up or overreacting, that predators do exist. And that they by their nature search us out.
I was focusing on positive thinking, which meant I didn’t want to think about or acknowledge the reality of human predators. I was also trying to focus on forgiveness…. “He wasn’t such a bad [person] after all,” my rational mind was telling me. All the while, my still erratically behaving heart wanted to escape! ….We override our feelings when our rational minds focus on words, especially when the’re spoken by silver-tongued swindlers…. (p. 27-28, Kindle version)
Now when I encounter such people, I am much kinder to myself. And, if I’m to be honest, I’m much kinder to them because I don’t need to be so angry or protective with my energy. I’m much more able to detach in their presence, keep myself safe, see the situation with open eyes, and act accordingly.
Secondly (and this one makes me laugh out loud!), I am having such fun with the quantum physics language that I learned! It’s not necessary for understanding the book, don’t worry–it’s just a quirk of mine.
Who knew there’s a name for when my energy interacts with another’s–that’s called entanglement. My mind jumps immediately to my spouse, and that’s just fun on many levels! Those of you who have been married for a short time are likely thinking a thing, and believe me that counts. But those of you who have been married longer are laughing even harder at the depth of what that covers, aren’t you?!? Entanglement makes me love the inherent emotional intimacy, especially when I think of my spouse. The word also makes me see my friend, acquaintance, and work relationships in a new light, and I am much more discriminating and aware of where and why I choose to place my energy. Another yay!
However, my favorite newly-learned quantum physics language is interference. Superb examples of dropped stones in a pond make this explanation crystal clear and is reason alone to read this book. Basically any time there is entanglement there is interference, that’s all. The bottom line is that good vibes are constructive interference, and bad vibes are destructive interference.
Good news Honey, I’m “constructive interference!”
I shared this with my husband, and I can’t even tell you how much laughter and mileage we are together getting out of this!
The Honeymoon Effect is a fantastic read, I was pleasantly surprised by its depth, and it is easy to follow. Anyone who is interested in any type of personal growth, specifically of the self both alone and in relation to others, will gain something from reading this book. I was fairly skeptical when I began, yet now I consider this book a must-read.
- Book Review: The Honeymoon Effect (wednesdaybookreview.wordpress.com)
- Experiment investigates how classical physics may emerge from quantum physics (phys.org)
- New principle may help explain why nature is quantum (nanowerk.com)