When Your Groove Has Become A Rut
Here’s a story that I had been operating under a couple of years ago:
- Well-held values + Hard-won success = Living the dream
- Living the Dream = Lifelong happiness and fulfillment
When the solid earth of my dream job had over time crumbled out from under my feet, I had a bit of a personal crisis. This was my dream job, right? I had worked my butt off for it! When had it become a nightmare? Was I just ungrateful? Had my dream job abandoned me? Worse yet, was I the one who had given up on it?
What I had yet to learn at the time was that after over a decade, I had outgrown that dream. That it had expanded together with me as much as it was able to, and that I had more of me to become. That just because I now dreamed bigger and it was unable to go further did not mean the relationship had been in vain.
For the first time in my life I had true compassion for people who chose to just ride out their careers–for 30 years or more–and took up personal growth through developing new hobbies instead. Or they just started drinking heavily.
We are meant to grow. We are meant to expand. Do not fear that being at your crossroads means you are dissing the road that got you there.
Maybe you can identify with this personal questioning on your own journey…
If you are telling yourself that you made your bed and now must lie in it, I encourage you to take another look.. Yes, you made that bed. And, you can make another. Just because we started in a crib doesn’t mean that it fits us today. Or that it should.
But it was right and good and perfect for that time. Just as now is, at this time.
How far you have come is to be celebrated. Yet so is your moving beyond it. Let go.
And then, when we finally get what we want, we do all that we can to hold onto it. It is at this exact moment that we fall out of flow with Life. Like the wheel of Life that never stops turning, the longer you cling on and try to stay where you were, the more out of flow with Life you get. –Rebecca Campbell, author of Rise Sister Rise
Once upon a time you dreamed a dream. You worked your butt off, and attained it.
And it was good, very good.
Now, you dream a new dream.
And this is good. Very good.
What have you had to let go of in your past as you’ve grown into your present? Acknowledge it here in the comments. Our individual examples are universal stories. You are not alone.