What Ebeneezer Scrooge, Sherlock Holmes, and Darth Vader Have in Common
Even fictional characters sometimes receive unwarranted medical opinions. Doctors have diagnosed Ebeneezer Scrooge with OCD, Sherlock Holmes with autism, and Darth Vader with borderline personality disorder. –Sam Kean
Have you ever had someone else’s perception just absolutely throw you for a loop?
Perhaps your friend Scrooge tells a story and you think, “Wait — that’s not how it happened, and I was there!”
Maybe you’re quietly lost in beauty and awe of the fall scenery on a drive, and just then your spouse Sherlock remarks about how drab the season is this year.
Or perhaps you just learned that your sister Vader is furious with you because while you went out of your way to be complimentary during your visit, she only heard criticism and attack. Three days ago.
In each case, you are absolutely staggered at where the other person has arrived in your shared situation. Because your reality is entirely different than theirs.
So, which reality is the real one?
They both are.
Each of us creates our reality by our thoughts. Every day we get to choose. We are choosing, whether we are aware of this or not. We already have been for quite some time.
Don’t much fancy what you’ve gotten? Choose again. Yes, it is that simple.
That’s the difference between facing reality and creating it.
And, you cannot choose for another person. Just like they can’t choose for you.
So those same shared situations? Let go of reconciling the different realities. Trust in your own, while allowing them theirs. You cannot get righteous enough, or preachy enough, or defensive enough, or apologetic enough, or sad enough to lift others up and make them realize that they are choosing too.
You’re not ever going to teach them how to vibrate, nor would you want to change them all to a place of vibrating just like you. Your work is not to fix them; they are not broken. Your work is to choose from among all of that which feels best to you, and fixate on it as long as it gives you pleasure and joy. And in doing so, you will align with the Energy of your Source, and you will live a magnificent experience. You just have to not let your joy depend upon what anybody else is living, cause that’ll get you every time.
Carry on in love. Follow your joy, hold your own reality when faced with theirs. And know that you’re not alone.