Self-Compassion, Leveled Up


I heard a description of self-compassion the other day that changed my world. My entire body melted in resonance, even as my mind kept moving ahead. This incongruent body response was so profound, I thought I better pay attention.

Self-compassion is the ability to be easy with yourself, no matter what is going on in  your life.

Matt Kahn

Let’s be honest: “No matter what is going on in your life” likely means that you are in the midst of something challenging.

This helped me see that when in the throes of a challenging situation, my default is to do things: step up to meet it; work through it; overcome it.

And yes, self-compassion is in there for me too. “What can I do to be compassionate toward myself?” Understand that I’m doing the best that I can? Realize that I will fall short at times? Allow myself to be imperfect?

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But my body responded so deeply when I read this new-to-me way of navigating. My eyes and heart are opened to a reprogram, a new pattern of being when I’m in a challenging situation: breathe, and meet it; surrender to it; walk hand-in-hand with it.

Finding compassion for ourselves is not something we do when we look back at what we’ve made it through. Self-compassion is a state of ease and grace that we choose that carries us through our difficulties, in real-time.

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Ease. Joy. Grace. Right now.

And now.

And still now.

Yes, please.

And thank you.

What circumstances can you look back at and be more compassionate towards yourself about? What is currently happening for you, that you could use a dose of self-compassion about? Just for today, be easy with yourself. No matter what is going on in your life.


3 Comments on “Self-Compassion, Leveled Up”

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